What to do when you’re being ‘ghosted’ over text


Let’s be honest; the world of online dating is an intricate minefield that most of us just can’t cross. We find ourselves having to let people down, we find ourselves pining for those we don’t even know, and we even find ourselves being ‘ghosted.’ Yes, there’s nothing worse than being ignored by someone you think actually likes you. One minute you’re vibing about the fact that you both love Harry Potter, and the next minute your texts are being ignored, and you’re being left on ‘read.’ You soon begin to question everything you’ve ever said to them, and you can’t help but wonder what you did wrong. So, what can you do when you’re being ‘ghosted’ over text?

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Take a break from your phone

There’s nothing worse than being ghosted when you’re in the middle of a conversation. You have no idea why it’s happened, you wonder what you did wrong, and you think of all of the ways you can get them to respond. Most of the time, you glue yourself to your phone and check when they were last online. There’s a high chance that this will make your even more upset than you already are, so try to take a break from your phone. This will either give them a chance to respond or give you the chance to realize that you can live your life without them. It’s not the end of the world, after all.

Let them know how they’ve made you feel

If you’ve been on a few dates with someone and suddenly find yourself in the ghost-zone, then you have every right to approach the other person about what they’re doing. After all, you’ve given them time out of your life, and you felt as though there was a connection. If they didn’t feel the same, then it’s down to them to let you know – instead of ignoring you. So, just send them a message outlining how they have made you feel, and asking them why they would treat you in such a way. If it doesn’t work out well in the end, at least you can rest easy knowing that you may have taught them a lesson.

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Ghost them in return

Okay, we don’t normally like to live by petty rules, but sometimes ghosting a ghoster can work in your favor. Reverse psychology has proven to work on numerous occasions, so why not give it a go? Instead of messaging them or pining over what could have been, getting on with your life as though they were just an addition to your life could be one of the best ways to get them to contact you again. Don’t focus too much about what they have done to you, continue posting photos and updates on your social media, and show them that they haven’t changed your life in any way. There may have been some kind of miscommunication, and you may find that they message you again when they see that you are happily moving on with your life.

Say goodbye

Of course, there are many people out there who just don’t have time for ghosters. Why would you want to spend your time and energy on someone who will drop you like a hat? Instead of doing this, say goodbye to them and carry on being your fabulous, single self.

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